Whether we are walking around the park, baking cookies, or hanging out at your favorite coffee shop, family photos don’t have to be stressful! Here are a few tips and tricks I’ve picked up through the years to take the pressure out of making memories with your people.
1. Make sure you use positive language before your session.
“This is going to be so much fun!”
“I can’t wait to spend time with you guys during our family photos.”
How you talk about your session in the days and weeks before can drastically impact how everyone feels when the time finally comes. Try to avoid saying things like “please be good” and “I hope you guys are on your best behavior” as these phrases leave room for kids to decide things might not go so well. Instead, talk it up the same way you would talk about their birthday party.
2. Embrace the chaos.
It will not intimidate me if your kids don’t want to be photographed.
Yes. In fact, allowing me to do the task of getting them to cooperate gives me a chance to build trust with them.
Kids can sense if you’re stressed or agitated with them. Your job at your session is to embrace the chaos. Of course we will do our best to have fun and keep the kids smiling and engaged. Instead of getting frustrated, try shifting your focus to interacting with them and making sure you keep the energy light.
Ask them about their favorite video game, what they want for dessert, give them snuggles, etc.
There hasn’t been a single time in all my years of experience that an escalated adult has successfully de-escalated their kids.
3. Dress comfortably!
This is key! My sessions are all about showing up as your authentic self. Be conscious to choose outfits that represent who you are. Chances are if you’re uncomfortable in your outfit, it’s going to translate into the photos we take.
I am always happy to assist you with outfit planning and coordination, so please don’t hesitate to ask for help!
Most important of all, don’t forget to have fun.